Book 8, part 2. The Rites of Love (2006)
Should we seek out our ‘other half’?
‘My other half’ — ‘my soulmate’ — it’s a popular expression. Let’s see what it means, exactly I think many people will accept the following definition: a man or a woman close to you in spirit and their views on life, a pleasant communicator, someone you feel attracted to (including their appearance), someone capable of inspiring you to love.
Should we seek out our soulmate, or let our ‘other half’ be found all on its own, through the will of destiny?
As many centuries of mankind’s experience has shown, a determined search is essential. This is attested in multitudes of stories in which stout-hearted young men have set off on long quests in search of their intended.
There are a number of ancient rites which can aid this most important search of one’s life.
There are ancient rites, too, which can help determine whether one has made the right choice. What if that ‘other half’ has come to you straight from the devil himself?
Some of these rites I have already described in my previous books. I did not touch upon well-known rituals, but mostly introduced rites that are not commonly known and have not
been encountered heretofore. The present book focuses on the wedding rite and, at the same time, the rite for determining whether one has made the right choice of partner, which I shall go over again in a different context.
“Then get on with it — show us these miraculous rites,” some of my readers may be thinking. “Why bother with all these expositions?” But the expositions are absolutely essential! We need a vision of our reality today, otherwise we shall not understand the tremendous signification of the wisdom of the people. Everything in the world is relative and, hence, comparisons are crucial.
So let’s now take a look and see which life situations in today’s world can facilitate a meeting and which may just get in the way.
Strange as it may seem, in our present so-called ‘information age’, situations favouring a meeting of two ‘halves’ are getting harder and harder to find.
People living in large, densely populated megacities are virtually cut off from each other by invisible barriers. Someone living in a modern multi-storeyed apartment block is often unacquainted with his next-door neighbour.1 Passengers on public transport, even those standing jam-packed shoulder- to-shoulder in the aisles, are all absorbed in their own individual problems. Pedestrians walking along the same street have no reason to communicate with each other.
And in America, for example, you can’t even look closely at a woman without being suspected of sexual harassment.
And so, just sitting in your flat or travelling to work or studies, there’s practically no opportunity to find your soulmate.
Let’s say your work involves contact with a lot of different people. Let’s say you’re sitting at a cash register in a large
Tor a description of what this means in Russian apartment blocks, see footnote i in Book 8, Chapter 13: Anew civilisation”.
supermarket. But none of the customers passing by you every day thinks of striking up an acquaintance with you. It’s more likely they see you merely as an adjunct to the cash register.
A college or university where a whole lot of young people congregate, though it indeed offers opportunities for conversation and coupling, is not a place for general selection of one’s soulmate, since an educational institution is designed with a completely different function in mind.
Today the most acceptable locales for meeting people are generally bars, restaurants, discotheques and resorts. But en-counters here, even those which end in marriages, do not, as a rule, result in a happy life in love and harmony According to statistics, ninety percent of such marriages end in divorce.
The principal cause lies in a false image. And what might that be? Well, here’s an example.